We all have stress and worries. Do you ever have the same thoughts running through your mind, over and over and over again. Nothing new is added to the situation except for all the negatives. We can not concentrate, we loose sleep, either eat more or less, maybe your blood pressure rises, your immunity to disease and illness can be lowered, GI problems, headaches, decreased patience and tolerance and a host of other problems may present themselves. Most of us do this, why, because we live life and life happens, but why do some people manage their stress better than others? Why can some people go through their day and others seem to get stuck and not able to move forward? It all depends on the methods one uses to cope with life.
Imagine an Ancient Chinese piece of furniture with all those small draws in them. Open the draw and picture putting the issue into it and closing that draw. Now, only open it again if you have some new information to add or are relating the issue to someone than can help. This is only one of the tools I teach for coping with stress. Learn the many different tool to make your life more content and joyful so you can bring the smile back to your face and enjoy life once again.
A relationship is like a flower, without loving care it will wilt and die.
One of the nourishments is proper communication and this is a broad topic. Most of us learned this skill from our parents, caregivers, friends, and/or teachers. They may have taught us basics like no interrupting, shouting and of course grammar in school, but not what it takes to sustain our relationships.
One of the most important skills to learn, especially when discussing an issue of importance to you, is speaking in approximately three sentences at a time. Then the other person does the same and this goes on in this fashion until the discussion is finished.
Think about this; Have you ever listened to a person that just doesn’t stop talking, you forget what you wanted to respond to from the first sentence, you are not listening because your busy thinking of your response and you may even “glaze over” from boredom.
More than the approximate three sentences is no longer a discussion but a lecture and there are not many of us that like being lectured to when it comes to a relationship.
If this is followed I can assure you from personal experience:
Much more is understood. There is less chance for misunderstandings and the other person is more bound to listen. Try this first bit of advice and look forward to future tips on communication, skills and insights to keep your relationship strong and other topics that I hope will be of interest.
Your comments and success stories are welcomed.
In many moments of despair, people often reach for a drink or a pill to ease their comfort. Unfortunately this is how substance abuse and dependency problems incubate and progress. What was once a social drink with friends, can easily transform to dependence and abuse. Alcoholism is a disease. It is predictable, progressive, may affect every organ in your body and can destroy every aspect of your life. Do you know someone who shys away from others that don’t drink or misuse substances, have had difficulty with the law and/or their job has promised to stop using, has increased the amount ingested? If so contact me at 845 3697502 and I will be happy to answer your questions.